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Six Good Reasons to Leave a Church

8/29/2019

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We live in a consumer society, where we’re told we should only be loyal to products and brands if our wants and needs are satisfied. This is why it can be easy for churchgoers to have a low threshold for leaving a church. When the preaching loses luster, or another churchgoer begins to annoy you, it can be very tempting to move elsewhere. However, these reasons aren’t nearly good enough for leaving your congregation behind. Here are six good reasons to leave a church. 

False Teaching Takes Place
The Bible may seem politically incorrect these days, but it is sure about the fact that not all we hear is true. Some information that comes our way is false, not to mention dangerous and evil. While you might think that these false teachings can’t infiltrate a church, that isn’t always true. When the word of Christ is no longer dwelling richly in a church, leaving is the best thing to do. 

Unsuitable Leaders Are Established
There are good leaders and bad leaders in the world. This is something the Bible makes very clear. Any leader of a church must be a person of integrity, operating in holiness in private, as well as public. Most pastors do their best to live holy lives, but others hide sinful secrets. Rather than allow unsuitable leadership to drive you to sin, you should separate yourself from them. 

No Opportunity To Serve
Every churchgoer should be serving in their church in one way or another. While some people welcome guests at the door, others teach Sunday School classes or take up the offering. If your church has no such opportunities to serve, then that is a good reason to leave. While this may be rare in churches, it does happen on occasion and can make church members feel unhappy. 

Moved Too Far Away
Being an active participant in your church is difficult when you live very far away. You may find yourself attending fewer church events, which can pose challenges to your connection there. This is a fair reason for moving churches. With congregations all over the US, Universal Church makes this easy. Everyone should be able to attend a church where they can actively service. 

Sin Is Going Unchallenged
Sinners should be called to account, not just for the sake of the sinner, but for the whole church community. When you allow serious sin to take place, it can impact every member of the church. The trouble is, there are situations in which leadership failure mean that sin is going unchallenged. If sin is prevalent in your church community, leaving may be the only option. 

God Has Asked It
Far too many churchgoers use God as an excuse and scapegoat for their actions. However, that doesn’t mean that you should ignore Him when He does speak. When God asks you to leave a place and go somewhere else, you should listen. He won’t ever tell you to leave the church completely, but he may ask that you realign yourself with a different one. 

Leaving a church is never easy, but, if you’re facing any of the situations described above, it may be your only option.

1 Comment
John Hickman
10/11/2020 04:07:24 pm

I very much appreciate reading your blog on this very subject, as my wife and I are finding many of our very small church congregation somewhat difficult to deal with in our desire to serve.

We absolutely love our pastor and his family. We very much see very eye-to-eye in teaching biblical standards and God’s truth. We are very conservative.

We had moved (back) into this area, where I am originally from in 2012 just before I retired. I grew up in this area and left in 1975 when I first went into the military.

Although I was never a member of this particular church, I am actually blood relative to many.

The problem my wife and I face is, what we can only describe as “Queen Bee” mentality within our small congregation. It makes my wife and I (and other who left for a different church) to feel as though we haven’t met our tenure unless we have been there 50+ years.

Therefore, even though we are asked to be on committees, we feel we are not empowered to make decisions unless it clears the Queen Bees, or, there is contentious interventions.

We know that others have left to align themselves with other nearby churches due to the “snippiness” of the older people with our congregation.

Even the pastor and his wife has felt the repercussions of this same problem. I am afraid that we might becoming the Church of Ephesus in Revelation Chapter 2, which lost their first love.

My wife and I have discussed this problem among ourselves many times, and agree that the only thing keeping us there is the wonderful teachings of our pastor and his wife. We have certainly conveyed our feelings to them as well.

I enjoy the teachings, I enjoy what I learn as I myself study to teach our Adult Men’s Sunday school, but I admit, I don’t like the method in which we undertake Sunday school, as it presently created way too much distractions and takes away from the quality of the lessons which I so painstakingly put time in preparation.

I feel we can combine both the men and women, which would alleviate trying to talk over each teacher on separate sides of the sanctuary (it’s all we have).

However, that idea doesn’t go over well with the Queen Bess as “we have always done it this way.” So...I have to bite my lip. It is no wonder that Sunday school attendance is very poor - it is too contentious!

I understand that every church has its problems, and I am not of the perception that our situation is unique to us, but it really does create tensions with the newer members, and a known reason why we have newer members come and leave for another church.

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